Tuesday, August 18, 2009

…..And LIFE moves on…..

Today my closest girlfriend told me about her formal engagement with a guy in her office… And I am really really happy for her :D

I remember before 4 months she had a break up with her guy….. And she was shattered though she wasn’t showing her pain… But I sensed it…. Then her guy got married to some other girl…. Arranged marriage and all that…. She was really very upset…. Honestly, I hated that guy for what he had done….

Anyways life moves on… She met some other guy in her office… though they were friends from the very beginning but things were never more than friendship and one fine day the guy proposed her and now they are getting married soon…. :) :)

Wow!! Thousands things started popping up in my mind the moment she told me about her engagement :D… Very first thing I asked her was “Do you love him?” and she replied “He loves me a lot” I again asked but “Do YOU love him?” and she replied “yes, I do and I’ll be happy with him”….. And also about all those li’l things he do for her…. That was really very cute :D

And I know she has realized why her last guy got married with someone else because she deserved someone better and that moron was damn unlucky :)

Once one of my guy friend told me… there is nothing called true love and its all about understanding and care… and if these two things are there you can spend your life with anyone… Well…. I don’t agree (I also feel only guys can think this way :P) though it’s just a personal opinion… nor I’ll justify the statement though I can… but I know one thing…. life is not so simple and obvious now a days like it was in the past…. When people knew that they will fall in love after marriage and live their life merrily…. Now things are different and people are complicated and so are their lives… you can’t take it for granted that the person will accept all your complexities…. And there you realize the value of love (of course m not talking about friendly, brotherly or motherly love here :P)… Because when you are in love you know you’ll do it and will win every situation… It makes life different and nothing seems difficult :D :D

I know when my parents talk about marriage in front of me I don’t react negatively though I know my mindset is very clear and what I have to achieve in life they too know my career goals very well… And I won’t blame them if they are worried about marriage and all… Earlier I used to deny now I just don’t utter a word…. No that doesn’t mean I am ready it simply means go ahead and I’ll handle things my way…:P :P ;)

I don’t think about this aspect of my life at the moment…. Before few days I saw a dream that I was about to get engaged with a guy I don’t love and I was locked in a room and I was trying to run away it was a very weird dream and specially when I don’t even think about this issue… it was a damn suffocating nightmare :P :P

I don’t know about people but I know about myself I can’t dare to imagine a life without love…. Nor I can fall in love with just anybody I meet… In fact I feel I can’t actually fall in love… Complex…. I know…. :P

I dunno what’s there for me in store… Right now have so many other things…. My MBA… my placement….. :)))

And then how can I forget I don’t need to take all this pain when God knows everything… I know He’ll handle it ;) ;) And he knows what I want from Life….
Whatever…. Dunno from where I started about myself…. Huh!! :P :P….

In the end, I just wanna congratulate my friend once again… Wishing her a wonderful life ahead :D….. Cheers!! :)))

74 comments:

Kaka said...

it is difficult to find someone these days who will love u unconditionally.....this was the statement given to me by someone when we talked about true love...how far is it true i will know if i happen to fall in love with someone and the girl too happens to....as u said i cant fall in love with anyone i meet or see...sometimes i feel maybe i wont fall....only time will tell...as someone put it if it is written in ur destiny it is bound to happen...god takes care of evrything....:)...nice post

Mon Espace said...

hey first time here..nice template..and yeah, about the post..i wouldn't worry too much if i were you, id just sit back and wait for lightening to strike.. :D

Benny said...

Hey sad u havn't yet met u r dream guy,which makes u say ,"In fact I feel I can’t actually fall in love…Complex!"..Reading this post,strengthen my idea that,it jus takes a second,a moment,a smile to fall in love and when I say "fall in love",u actually fall in love!!! So Deepika,keep waiting for that moment N the right person..Oh ya u hav u r exams,placements b4 that N al d best for all those..My congrats to u r gal-frnd ;)

GARF said...

I agree with you. The stand that you take regarding your parent's woes about your marriage is cool. That speaks how focused you are. great going. All the very best.

Love....hmmm...that word is complex. It is certainly not care and blah blah...I have always maintained that we don't choose love. Love chooses us and when it does there is no point in holding back. May be someday you will be chosen or may be not, but it is good that you have things in your life that you need. Cheers!!!

Deepika Gupta said...

@Kaka
Difficult.. No... its next to impossible....

hmm true God will handle it.... few things are destined by Him... :)
Thanks for visiting :)

Deepika Gupta said...

@Mon Espace
Na m not worrying :)
Nor i am waiting... I am just doing what is in my hands... My career path :D

Thanks for dropping by..

Deepika Gupta said...

@Benny
It may... take smile or a second or a moment... but its natural you cant do it with your choice....

I wish I could love anybody as per my wish.... but anyways...

Deepika Gupta said...

@Garf
Well said... Love chooses us not we choose love.... hmm.... dunno...
Once one of my professor said
"there are two most important aspects in any individual's life.... one is career other is the person you marry... if you choose anything wrong you'll keep on struggling for the rest of your life..."

I just wish to choose correct in both cases :) :) rest is destiny..

HaRy!! said...

Not fair that yu said "only guys cud say this" :( , anyways.. yu were rite on whatsover discussed...as for yur friend i think shez lucky and i wud say fortunate that she did'nt go with the earlier guy as it appears he is very two minded and afraid of committment! Wish yu luck for yu know wat :)! tak care...keep visitin

H a R y

Saad Shaikh said...

happy for your friend.. :)

and happy for you too.. since you're so resolved about your life.. ;)

and no yaar.. all guys don't think that way.. :P there are some who don't think at all.. :D

anyways... wish you good luck for your MBA and placements.. :)

ScarletTd1ar1es said...

sigh. there is this saying a frnd once told me.

the person u love cant love u back and the person who loves u, u cant luv bck.

far as i can c, its an exception to exceptions.

Indian Pundit said...

Yeah u are absolutely right Deepika.
Life never stops at one point. Life moves on....also i believe whatever happens , happens for the BETTER......thats certainly the case with ur friend.

Cheers and thanks for visiting my blog.

Deepika Gupta said...

@Hary
I feel this... guys are more practical and rational... they can think love is not important... or may b for them....
yea m happy for her :) that last guy wasnt deserving enuf..

Deepika Gupta said...

@Saad
i agree some dont think at all ;)

thanks :)

Deepika Gupta said...

@Scarlet
truly said... and when both love each other... things nvr fall in place... love isn't easy

Anonymous said...

!!!! well nicely written n smitten by....
but i knw what u meant by God knows..
take care

Deepika Gupta said...

@Indian Pundit
Yes... everything happens for a reason :)
thanks :)

sonali said...

ALL THE BEST TO HER, and life is all about moving on.
By the way, pls dnt mind but your guy friend was right, its all about understanding and care, and little more about adjustments.
nice blog, keep it up :)

Deepika Gupta said...

@Sonali
Neah, as i said i won't justify cz its personal opinion.. Its upto an individual's thought process... People are used to live materialistic lives.. And thats perfectly fine with me.. its their life..

Shantanu Das said...

I thought girls have only friends and boy friends! So what is this your having a girl friend? Does it have any link to the last post? hmmm!!

You should also have asked "How do you know he loves you?" "How do you know he will continue to love you?" "How do you know what love is?"

The last question is relevant. If you do not know that though all tweenagers and teenagers think they are the best experts on this subject I think not so and most probably do not know what true love is. Half of them are confused like your guy friend.. what is that he said about true love being different from understanding and care? What is love then? something that has no care and understanding? Like it has only sex? Shucks! Why do you have such guy friends!!!?? LOL!!

Ahhh!! You got it right!! Concentrate on MBA.. love will happen when it will happen or will never happen.. you can do nothing about it..!! at all!

And I will kill you if you do not visit my blogs.. it seems you are missing some of my posts.. I am going to post more soon since I have a lot of pictures of places I have been to and will be in next one month.. Cheers to your future love and to your GIRLFRIEND's current love! You must be miserable at having lost your girlfriend to a boy!!

Deepika Gupta said...

@Shantanu
:|
M STRAIGHT!! First thing!

Secondly, a girlfriend is a friend who is a girl and guyfriend is a friend who is a guy... Now stop running your TWISTED BRAIN!! :P

I am Happy for her... :P

Next.. yes understanding n care are parts of love but not love as a whole!! read it again :P :P

As far as asking all those Qs is concerned... We were celebrating her happiness and were not playing rapid fire :P... Anyways if she is sure she must be knowing it.. or as per her view she must be right you cant just tell everyone
'no no its not love dnt marry and all'
If two ppl are happy thats the best thing.. Isn't it??

The Aspirant said...

hey u knw noone falls in luv knowingly........i mean i dunt say dat i hv to fall in luv a hundred times a day nd den i fall in luv, only dose persons who deny luv nd runaway frm it do fall in it.
I hv realised dis frm my xperiences of lyf. Nd hw much u deny dat u cant fall in luv wid ne1, it vl happen if it hs to nd u vl evn wont knw wen it all started, i dunt think nething is more complex den luv.......
well nd only sum guys thinks lyk d things u hv mentioned, coz widout luv thing is nt lyf its jst an adjustment........
cheers

NEHA said...

deepika sweetie, stop having these scary dreams ok :) Thinking about all this would freak out anyone

Nazish Rahman said...

Do u think love exists in a relationship like these...lol!! Its all about u enjoying his or her company...many think this is love. Wonder where does this love disappear after a few days. Its like deriving your marginal utility...n thats its either of them call it a day!! How can one be sure that he or she is the one your looking for.
Look at this eg like the boyfriend left because he never needed her anymore and then in the case of this girl she was hurt and got a shoulder that made her comfortable...which she may have misunderstood as love.
Love and all these hardly exists thesedays...believe me , ppl are all opportumistic and selfish...or emotional fools!! thats my opinion many may not agree...its fine!!!

Pritish said...

love in relationships are bound to happen. one might get hurt in the process. but, that is not the end of life. life has to move on. shit happens in life, u gotta learn to flush.

dont have expectations in life. dont go mad if u end up getting hurt in a relationship/broken relationship.

get the next guy/girl and be happy. can not do much in life. simple!

Nikholic said...

He handles us well.............an unwritten caption everyone has this * symbol.

And yes lovely template, please be in touch and i shall wait for you comment on this story called "Icraus"

workhard said...

Hey i believe in only one thing.. Take it easy...Love doesnt happen when u go looking for it.. it happens when its supposed to happen.. and so does marraige...

Work from home

GARF said...

@Deepika: You wish the choose the correct one. Hope and wishes that it happens. But am still at conflict with what your professor said or what logical world and brains suggest about those two things: career & marriage.
I still maintain that career isnt made...it happens. Sounds funny i know but it always is that certain things you choose early decide the flow and course or if not that way, destiny takes it's course. I might sound different but i am a destiny believer. And i like reading and hearing people who arent that way i.e. YOU. :))

Marriage is something i never understand. Given a condition that one never gets to hear about it, the word would have never come up. If world would have still existed without it, why does it exist? I donno the answer. All i know and feel is marriage is no other than the fact that i brush my teeth everyday or that i sometimes happen to wear a formal at official occasions. But the person who is supposed to be the object of marriage is something that i can relate to as going to work for doing something or caring for my teeth. I know no one agrees. Not even my love or my parents. But i was never able to see marriage as important/special/fruitful/necessary... :)
Take Care.

Shilpa Garg said...

Yeah, Life sure moves on and for the BEST always!
Am glad for your friend!! :)

Jai Joshi said...

Deepika, I agree. I've felt for a while now that I might never fall in love and that maybe I can't. I was talking about this the other day with a friend and she looked at me and said: "You've NEVER been in LOVE! What do you mean you've never been in love?" According to her everyone's been in love at least once but I disagree. I think most people are infatuated and then they lose the infatuation. Love is much more then being attracted to someone.

Deepika Gupta said...

@Aspirant
well.... Love isn't complex... Its just that it takes a very important stand in life and everything revolves around it... May be thats why you feel its complex...
I agree may be only few guys think like this... :)

Deepika Gupta said...

@Neha
I wish I could chose to watch dreams of my choice while sleeping... but thats not possible :(
So I adjust with wateva comes.... And I don't think on this topic.... I have mentioned.... Thats why I said wierd dream...

Deepika Gupta said...

@Nazish
I agree on few things but not on all.... Yes I agree ppl are opportunistic and mean or either emotional fools... M an emotional fool.... I accept

Secondly, as far as love in relationship is concerned if two people think they can be happy and are in love then its perfectly cool for me... Our work is to wish them a happy life.... And I feel atleast these people are lucky enough to feel they are in love with each other and are still together... Which is very rare....

Deepika Gupta said...

@Pritish
yes... This is easier to say.... but this is the fact of life...

Deepika Gupta said...

@Workhard
I am not bothered about it :)
I just shared what i felt.... I know its all natural...

Deepika Gupta said...

@Workhard
I am not bothered about it :)
I just shared what i felt.... I know its all natural...

Deepika Gupta said...

@Garf
Hey am a Destiny believer... What made you think I don't believe in destiny but yes one can always try to do what he/she really want to achieve in life.... Rest is all luck... :)
Marriage... its a part of civilization which differentiates us from animals where there is no distinction... Secondly, yes society is moving towards barbarianism where ppl are again goin back to "live-in relationships" or multiple divorce and marriage system...
Its just a personal opinion but marriage is certainlty not brushing your teeth.... I respect my parents decision of marrying each other and i respect this institution....
Though I am liberal and have no issues with those living in cohabitation or multiple divorces... Personal opinion... Personal life :)

Deepika Gupta said...

@Shilpa
Yes it does... Thanks for visiting here

Deepika Gupta said...

@Jai
I agree.. People find it hard to differentiate between love and infatuation... but both are different.... Love is a different feeling... And sometimes take infatuation as love..

Love is certainly different I know one of my friend is serious about one girl from past 6 years.... They had break up before 2 years and he thinks he moved on but I know he is still into her... Its easy to make out...when ppl are in love.... but love and luck rarely go hand in hand...

Sourav !!! said...

Congrats to your girlfriend :)

And all the best to you ... go hunting for tall-dark-n not so handsome guys, and don't worry, whenever you fall (IF YOU EVER) ... u won't ever get up !! :P

And yeah that post was meant to write about your friend, but it seems you took an opportunity to write another PUBLIC NOTICE/TENDER to invite boyfriends and their proposals :P :P

God bless and take care :)

Deepika Gupta said...

@Sourav
"but it seems you took an opportunity to write another PUBLIC NOTICE/TENDER to invite boyfriends and their proposals :P :P"

huh!! I nowhere said i am looking for a guy.... :P M single and not ready to mingle!!

I really hope all guys don't think like YOU!! GOSH!! you are too much :P :P

And by the way i don't need to write a blog for searchin for a guy... :P I always have better options... but anyways :P

Just stop running your mind!!

Rajkumar said...

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I welcome you to my blog,leave your valuable comments and your link back is welcomed……….

Sourav !!! said...

@DEEPIKA (exclusively) :D

Lol, calm down... it was just a joke ... I know u r such an Angel, u won't do such things !! :)

This is what I say, the intended joke (which ended up freaking you) just caught ur attention, I wasn't even thanked once for the rest of the comment ... :( :P

And btw Miss, u come to my blog and after reading ur comment it seems u jus left lines of formality .. I was expecting somethin more from you (being the first blog fren of mine)..but anyways ... that wud suffice too !

Take care n God Bless :)

Americanising Desi said...

i have ordered this book titled 'why men love bitches' and hence i say i qualify for too much niceness and so do you and that is why we suffer so much!

Escapist said...

Oh thats beautiful !

Good to hear about her....


Joliiieess:-)

GARF said...

@Deepika: Personal opinion is what your blog is all about. :)

But what did i say that hinted you towards barbarianism and multiple divorces? Do you agree upon that they are the results of not believing in the institution of marriage? Or just a belief is enough not to lead you astray? Well, whatever it might have been, i didn't mean that ways. All i can say to sum it up as is that love transcends all. And somehow i always fail to identify what it is with marriage. Personally, someday i shall marry too but i shall still remain quizzical about it.
And to add on on something which i just realized: Your blog has this unique comments upon comments thing. Might be that it is out there but such a warm interaction through comments between bloggers on a post is something new for me.It is great. Keep that up. Cheers!

Merlin said...

:)
Makes me think.. of where i was 3 years back!

Manish Raj said...

Ms Expert...love happens..you can not plan or postpone that..

Try to concentrate on your studies...and till the time you find your right guy (understanding, caring and John Abraham..) enjoy life with wrong ones..

Deepika Gupta said...

@Sourav
I dunno what made you feel it was just formality :(
Yes you can always expect an honest comment from my side...
Believe me i had no such intentions...

Deepika Gupta said...

@Americanising
Niceness?? Thanks :)

Deepika Gupta said...

@Escapist
Thanks for dropping by :)

Deepika Gupta said...

@Garf
Firstly thanks :)
Yes i like to interact with my blogger friends... of course others' opinions are always welcome... :)
Somewhere i feel that now a days ppl don't take these things seriously nor they want to compromise so they end up their relationship... even if it is a marriage....
Of course love is above all.... But then i feel if two people want to live together then why don't they believe in marriage...

Deepika Gupta said...

@Garf
And yes sometimes i too ask this Q to myself... Is it that important to get married... I mean society can exist without marriage as well.... But then there are customs, family everything attached to it... So its an inseparable part of culture... And hence society..

Deepika Gupta said...

@Merlin
Welcome to my blog... :)

Deepika Gupta said...

@Manish
Of course i am not concentrating on this issue...
And for enjoyin life its not always necessary to have someone.. :)
Anyways thanks for the suggestion :)

Rajkumar said...

your blog is very interesting.I like to add you in my blog roll
I welcome you to my blog,leave your valuable comments and your link back is welcomed……….

peter said...

ahh love and all ..a concept beyond my understanding limits :P

Anonymous said...

Hi,
Very well written blog.I have been myself willing to write something like this, but have not been able to.....actually never tried. SO wen I read ur post, I found it to be exactly what I would have written.... Good to read your post.

All the best with your carrer.

Deepika said...

@Peter
You are not alone... there are many accompanying you :P

Deepika said...

@Anonymous
You know what! you should always do what you want to do....
Atleast everything you really want in life is worth giving a try once...

Well am glad that you liked my blog.. thanks!

Girl Next Door said...

Hey Gal !! I can actually empathies with you... Even I can't imagine life without love... That's why I have left everything on God... He'll find the best one for me.. Till then I'm enjoying life :)

Ashish said...

Now this is interesting!! When I was reading this post, I was thinking that how can you write my ideas in your post ;). Even I don't feel that I can ever fall in love. The concept of irrationality in love keeps me away from actually falling in it :). But looking at the world i sometime fear that someday some girl might walk into my life and i will succumb to her love ;)(that must be pleasant, isn't it?? ;)).

Deepika said...

@Girl
Thats the best thing to do :) :)

Thanks for dropping by!

Deepika said...

@Ashish
Ahan! those who run away fall in trap easily.. :P

Ashish said...

Haha.. let's see who traps me :P.... and yah one more thing... ur thesis on true love (and against ur guy frnd ;)) is very apt.. :)

Deepika said...

@Ashish
Yeah! Good luck :P

Thanks :)

GARF said...

Arghhh....c'mon...what should i say...we arent going anywhere....

Well i agree with you on things like people aren't taking them seriously these days. As of the society...i appreciate your view but the fact is i never got good about it..i never liked it...i never cared for it. I live in it....i know it..but i hate it and so i dont care about it. :)

Deepika said...

@Garf
uff! So much hatred!!
Its not so good :)

Shobhit said...

Hello. My first time on your blog. :) Really nice posts you have here. I'll be a regular now. :)

As for this post I won't say much because you already wrote what I think of all this myself. And though my parents are getting more un-easy by the day regarding my marriage too, they know that I can't marry someone just for the sake of it. I just can't spend my life living with someone I don't love.

I think all of us similar thinkers should form a community of sorts about it. :D

Do read my post regarding relationships dated September 1.

Keep posting. :)

Satyu said...

Hii..
Nice post.
First of all Hearty Congratulations To Your Friend. :)

Well.. yeah we should take it in a positive way that there gonna be a better tommorrow. But its difficult to hv tht thinking in case of love. Really very difficult.But Im happy that ur friend move on in life and wish her a very bright and a very very happy future :)

Anyways nice post yaar.
Takecare
Keep smiling :)

monisha mehta said...

hey , nice blog , like it ,
won't be nice if i u can clickover to my blog page too ,
& post some suggestion

Sabita said...

you never know what is love?? until and unless,you fall in love...

Anonymous said...

Hey really nice post.I also have some ques..
why the things should be hard or next to impossible for girls only? n boys are always ready for another option? boy came out very quickly and girl suffers a lot in the breaking situations?

SOCH... said...

Love - There is no explaination about that feel... i totally agree ki care nd understanding cant be the only criteria to live a life with someone... There should be that feel that should come from inside... Yeah I wanna live my whole life with her or him... Whatever negs he or she has, I will bear them because it is worth the pain...

And we all feel that we might not fall in love... but Love happens nd you never know it... Love is something you can't create or make someone fall into it...

And wen u hav god on ur side, what is there to worry... he will do the needful.. :)

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