During my MBA one of my lecturers told me…. You are going to start with a new life…. Your professional life… and I wanna tell you something important take it seriously and follow it “Don’t trust anybody” and there are three golden rules to succeed….Rule#1- There are no friends at work place
Rule#2- There are no friends at workplace
Rule#3- Again there are no friends at workplace
Never forget these lines and all the best!
I agreed to him…. And started with my office….. Of course there are many things we need to learn practically no matter how many times we read them….. And we truly learn them after we fall down….
And my recent learning was to recall all these 3 important rules….… Of course I am a human being its not a sin if I trust people and try to help them out by thinking that they might not be so bad and cruel….. by thinking that they are so like me…. New to this world of professionalism….. quite innocent to play dirty politics…. And I was wrong… I was not shocked but I was upset….. I was not shocked coz I’ve heard that it will happen…. I was upset coz I never thought this will actually happen….
I have friends with work experience who share their professional life and politics in office…. And I never thought someday I’ll face it so practically…..
I am confused….. Whether to fight with God or to say thanks for teaching me this lesson…. People do bad things play dirty games…. But it hurts when someone you trusted does the same…
By the way….. Thank you God…. It was a good learning… I’ll safeguard myself from the next time…..
And one more thing God…. Why don’t you spare me from teaching at least one negative thing… why I need to learn all these painful things practically huh….
Anyhow! I love you… And thanks for being there for me…. I am glad at least you are there for me….. Please protect me from being bad(I mean more bad than what I am already ;))…. And give me power and patience to deal with such things around me….
Thank you…. Muah :) :)
Hey deepika.. nice name btw.. ;-)
ReplyDeleteI so agree with the politics at work thing.. my whole point was, even if it happens, I don't want to be a part of it.. and it has been horrible..
Nevertheless, I still have friends at work.. but these remain people who strictly don't have a day to day work with!!
u know its worse when, u and a friend work together.. and differences creep up.. coz of work!!
nice read though.. and sorry i just vented out like that!
such things keep happening ... no matter how much you want to stay away from it, you some way or the other fall pray to it ... and its the bad experiences in life that makes one wiser ... take care and all the best! :)
ReplyDeleteLife is like this. We've been kids. Now we are grown up. its just the beginning. Me too was like you. I thought none can do this things. But wot I'm seeing around is pathetic.
ReplyDeleteI hate this being Professional. Like this..
totally agree...there r no friends at workplace... do your 8 hours and come back...simple
ReplyDeleteoffice in workplace...temme abt it...
ReplyDeletebut yeah thr r still lotsa ppl out thr like us...who hate it n wanna run away from it...we jus need to find those ppl...
believe me thr r genuine ppl in workplace...few but thr r!!
hey... dnt be :-(
ReplyDeletethis is a fact which you have to accept....
best formulae is to be happy go lucky... be friends with everyone at work... crack jokes, be friendly but same time DON'T TRUST ANYONE... dnt expect... Dont expect ppl to be kind with you..
And waise how can u tell GOD to teach u in easy way... He can't come and tell u things... what he can do is send messages via ppl... like he did once via ur lecturers... it was u who thought this wont actually happen...
Now u have learnt so be carefull nd njoii the game... nd dnt be sad... the movie has just started... abhi to pitcure baaki hai mere dost.... ;)
The biggest troubles come in life when you mix professionalism with friendhip.. And now a days it is really hard to differentiate between both..
ReplyDeleteTrue friendship is really hard to find..
i agree with Mayz.. there wud definitely be people like us in there.. be frnz with them
ReplyDeletetake care n all the best :)
@Deeps
ReplyDeleteLovely name ;))
hey dnt be sorry.... thanks for visiting my blog :)
@Saif
ReplyDeleteAgreed! thanks :)
You too tc
@Randeep
ReplyDeleteSometimes you just cant help it....
@Sid
ReplyDeletehmmm.... I am happy that my job is not sitting job... :)
@Mayz
ReplyDeleteI hope to find atleast 1 like me... :) search is on!
@Prasanth
ReplyDeleteAisi tragic picture nahi dekhni...
But I hope for the best :)
@learner
ReplyDeletei think we can find frnds only till clg... after that ppl are cruel n mean!
@Amal
ReplyDeletehmmmm.... I hope to find atleast 1... :))
Rest is cool.... :) thanks for dropping by!
yaar... Koi pitcure tragic nhi hoti...
ReplyDeleteUljhey nhi to kaise suljhoge.... agarr problems nhi milengi to solutions kaise milenge...
Sab burey nhi hotey... insaan sabhi ache hote hain... Situation insaan ko change karti hai... Nd same applies on u, me or anyone...
And achey logon k sath to sab kaam kar lete hain.... Burey logon ke handle karne waley he killler hote hain.... Samjhi?
well, first glad to read frm u again.....
ReplyDeleteits been along tym since u hv last posted....
nd i still appreciate ur trust on god...seriously u r really a gr8 person....
Nd professionalism comes wid tym, u shudn't b bad urself bt u shudn't too allow others to harm u in ne way....
cheers :)
harsh reality ....
ReplyDeleteanyways going about our work might be a good alternative ,y arent u blogging on a regular basis ???
cheers !!!
always two options....
ReplyDelete1. crib about it
2. make the best out of it
Better choose the second one...
Hi,
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Hi Deepika,
ReplyDeleteThis is a hard reality, we are different in our professional world and in our personal world. That is what even happens with others. So, if we want to make friends (actual friends, not companion), we need to get personally involved with other and that should be mutually, otherwise its not possible.
Second, helping others in the best thing to be done, but if it is done without any expectation. So, if you are helping someone continue doing it, but don't expect same from them because they are not your friends they are some strangers.
Rest Life is always beautiful, its how we see it... :)
One man meat is another man's poison .It's the survival for the fittest
ReplyDelete:)
friend or foe
ReplyDeleteits difficult to know :P